Men who feel
— a revolution in a traumatised society
Let’s start here
“I am honestly thrilled writing these paragraphs right now. As around 70% of my previous and current therapy clients are male, I’m recognizing more and more how important it is to access our emotional world in safe spaces, especially for men.
Generational trauma can leave its wounds as the inability to name, feel & process your own emotions.
As a result, you may struggle to self-regulate in overwhelming situations and easily find yourself coping through escape mechanisms like addictions (alcohol, drug abuse, extreme patterns) or complete numbing (dissociation, inability to feel love(d), depression).
And how could you deal with those emotions?
As a man, growing up often means learning to numb your sadness - because crying is “weak". You’re taught to overemphasize your anger - because that’s a “masculine” quality. And don’t forget to downgrade your excitement, because men are supposed to be “cool”, never showing their obvious interest, right?
I HOPE YOU GET MY IRONY HERE.
I am not a man and I am also not here pretending to fully understand what you feel, but what I do want to share with you is that I see you and you are not alone in this.
After working with men from different cultures and age groups in therapeutic settings, I’ve seen different patterns caused by similar programming:
SUPRESSING YOUR FEMININE QUALITIES, E.G.
— The inability to step out of the “provider”-role
— Inner resistance when slowing down or treating yourself with care
— the inability to cry & truly feel love or joy
If this is something you resonate with and you’re ready to take the next step, let’s get in touch.”
Lara Sophie, founder
